Family / Couple
To have a satisfying sex life, you need to think about sex this way.
L’sexual fulfillment sometimes it’s close at hand. This is the finding shared by a group of researchers from the University of Illinois. The latter were interested in the intimate life of 675 adults, made up of Americans, British and Canadians, between February and May 2021, in the midst of the Covid-19 pandemic.
Sex should be seen as a hobby.
The researchers are very clear: we should not see our sexual activities as a chore or a “marital obligation”. On the contrary, intimate relationships must be perceived as a hobby to have a positive impact on the sexuality of both partners, according to the study published in March 2022, in the Leisure Sciences Magazine. “When sexual activity is pleasurable, freely chosen and motivated, it is equivalent to most leisure activities,” study co-author Liza Berdychevsky explained in the statement. In other words: it is essential to know how to say no, if you don’t feel like it.
According to the research findings, the partners most in tune with each other are those who have no qualms about being creative to surprise each other. 41% of the participants took advantage of the confinement to try new positions, 26% explored sex toys and 13% sexual role-playing. “Some of them even reported an increase in sexual desire, as well as a greater variety, frequency and quality of sexual intercourse,” the study details. A portion of the respondents also identified sex as a “coping mechanism.”
Love, sex, libido… Whether you are abstinent or highly religious, sexuality shapes the couple and yet, according to converging surveys, more than a third of French people are quite dissatisfied with their sex life.https://t.co/b0Sqg9ybm9 pic.twitter.com/vfhqr0EEOQ
– France Inter (@franceinter) November 21, 2021
Sex: a way to escape from everyday life
Generally, a satisfying sexual activity it would have allowed some participants to live through the pandemic better, according to the researchers. “Viewing sex as a hobby minimized the negative effects of the pandemic and was linked to a greater ability to reach orgasmgreater sexual intimacy and more touching and caressing”, explains the co-author.
According to a study by Ifop, the sexuality of Parisians is much more unbridled than that of the rest of the French. Except for one detail. #Diary pic.twitter.com/bF0gSH4YOC
— Diary (@Qofficiel) January 6, 2017
In fact, sanitary restrictions have left more room for couples to experiment. Proof of this is that 20% of those surveyed have indulged in sexual fantasies that they have put aside for a long time. On a daily basis, this approach is a way for people to unlock the potential sex routine.
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Tinker Bell fairies are bright and ambitious women who also happen to be great seductresses and manipulators. Eternally dissatisfied, the Clochettes hide, behind their obsession with appearance and success, great suffering. And they would be more and more numerous in our society. Explanations with psychotherapist Sylvie Tenenbaum.
He receives more and more in his office: brilliant women, who collect successes and professional achievements; hyperactive people who seek to control everything, starting with themselves; The “superwomen” doubled as great seductresses. So much so that Sylvie Tenenbaum, a psychotherapist, called them “Les Clochette”, in reference to the little fairy imagined by the writer James M. Barrie, with whom they share much in common. Starting with great suffering. We knew about the Peter Pan syndrome, or that of Cinderella or that of Sleeping Beauty. Now here is the tinkerbell syndrome.
The Bells are angry
Ambitious, often arrogant, perfectionists… The bells are ready to do anything to achieve their ends. “They are in a form of violence in front of life, because they take a form of revenge, analyzes Sylvie Tenenbaum. It’s also about revenge, in a difficult childhood, where they were often criticized, abused, humiliated, manipulated. During this, they stored a good dose of anger. And anger is energy, which they will later channel towards professional and social success. »
” He symptoms of tinker bell syndrome form a coherent whole, explains Sylvie Tenenbaum. We speak of syndrome when we recognize most of these signs in a single personality. »
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Perfectionism takes away the joy of living
Being ambitious is good. But when our desire to do better becomes a relentless will, it can cause harm.
The Clochettes are afraid of their emotions.
Tinkerbell fairies are women who have suffered a lot during their childhood. Of toxic fathers, possessive or self-centered mothers, misogynistic or absent fathers… “Most of the time they did not have the same permissions as their brothers, if they did, they did not value them as girls, or they raised them to be the first all. hour. So they told themselves that to be loved, you had to be successful. And above all, that they should not express their emotions. Which constitute, for them, real weaknesses. “They are afraid of them because they think they can take away their strength. And strength, it is true that they have a lot.
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How to manage the hassle?
Sometimes we react inappropriately and negatively when faced with a nuisance. However, it is not always pleasant either for oneself or for those around you.
Clochettes are great seducers
In terms of affective life, the Clochette multiply the encounters and conquests. But they are rarely satisfied. “The men they meet are never good enough. And since they do not have an easy character, at the slightest disappointment they are immediately fired. They have been so frustrated in the past that they cannot bear the slightest annoyance.
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I don’t like any man
I am 27 years old and almost no stable and constructive relationship. Every time I meet someone, I run away.
In fact, they despise men, having suffered greatly from their father during their childhood. Therefore, they just expect them to be worshipped. But in reality, the Tinkerbell suffers from a form of emotional dependency. “They are still little girls waiting to be loved unconditionally. Very unconsciously, they expect men to repair their psycho-affective life. But it can’t work because nobody can give them what they didn’t receive in childhood”.
The Tinkerbells hurt each other
Their affective, professional and social hyperactivity allows them in any case one thing: not to think about their suffering. Because if the Clochettes seem to succeed at everything, they are actually suffering. Injure. Victims of themselves. “They don’t know who they are. They didn’t even ask the question. They just live to prove that they are the best, the most beautiful, the strongest. They are in a form of intoxication. Most of the time, they realize very late the loneliness in which they are locked up. And then they become aware of their immense sadness for not having been loved enough or badly.
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Childhood stress, difficult to detect and often underestimated
Just like adults, children can become unsettled and stressed by changes in landmarks or unusual events.
The bells hurt
Meanwhile, they do a lot of damage to those around them. For this egocentric womeninsensitive, manipulative, tyrannical and jealous, “others are objects at his service”. They don’t respect them. They would like the world to live just for them. We have been tyrannical with them for so long. Unfortunately, they copied their models. But this damage that they do and that they do to themselves, they don’t even realize.
We talked about it in the Psychology forum 
tinker bells can break free
Fortunately, the Clochettes can change, “live better, have less heartbreak.” On condition of being helped. “It is a difficult path because it generates a lot of awareness. In particular that of having made others suffer. Generally, they are not proud of it. »
The key to transformation? “The repair of the girl that is in them and that she is still waiting for marks of love. It’s time to cultivate it”. Also renounce omnipotence, to meet your own emotions. And above all, “learn to love yourself better, to love yourself better”.
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Bell syndrome. These women who hurt and get hurtby Sylvie Tenenbaum, Editions du Moment.
A healthy relationship is based on trust, sincere feelings, and a certain amount of personal sacrifice. But the recipe for happiness as a couple does not exist and human relationships are so complex that lovers can sometimes go through some storms. Of the routine small annoyances that can even destroy the intimacy of the couple, the discussions sometimes result from particular behaviors : love kills them. As its name indicates, a love killer is the trigger for a breakup or the end of love. This is what makes a person stop wanting her partner.
Australian researchers have investigated the question to scientifically identify the behaviors that could be the worst killers of love. To do this, they conducted a survey of 5,500 single people between the ages of 21 and 76. Participants had to determine what could turn them off in a potential mate (physical characteristics, behavior, etc.). Result: three answers stand out from the majority of the panel, allowing us to define the most devastating love killers.
lack of hygiene
If the lack of hygiene is the the most frequent reason for rupture would be the “murderous love” most feared by those surveyed. Not to mention the extreme neglect, symptomatic of Diogenes syndrome, 67% of the participants pointed out a lack of hygiene that could end the relationship.
Breakup: how long does it take to mourn a relationship? https://t.co/qPs0Vpb9Ed
— Psychologies (@Psychologies_) November 21, 2022
the procrastination
A permanent need for affection.
Finally, it is the excessive need for affection that, for 69% of women and 57% of men, can endanger a love relationship. People who constantly seek attention and displays of affection from your partner You may face relationship difficulties. Therefore, it is important to leave enough space so as not to undermine the other person’s sense of freedom. Lack of affection, also characteristic of Tinkerbell syndrome can be a sign of lack of self confidencewhich must be repaired at no cost to the member.
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