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Storytelling to make the genius of childhood vibrate

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2 months ago

December 13, 2022

The genius of childhood is going through all your senses, and not just your head, it is experimenting and learning by playing, it is also seeing big with stars in your eyes! A hut under a table becomes a palace for the afternoon, some leaves and a slushie become a feast…

The JOYEUSE brand has designed its storytellers to make this child’s natural genius vibrate by putting himself at his height: beautiful playful, sensory and magical cubes that work with 3 instinctive gestures and offer dozens of fun audio content well told and sung, interpreted by artists. who believe in it (like a child when it plays)!

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Languages, games and discoveries: JOYEUSE storytellers are suitable for all ages

the story box from the JOYEUSE brand is inspired by Montessori pedagogy: it is placed at the height of the child so that it evolves at its own pace and grows with it until almost adulthood (0-7 years and probably a little more!). Make the genius of childhood vibrate, and all without a screen, that’s JOYEUSE’s bet!
These storytellers are used without buttons through three instinctive gestures (shake, turn, touch), which make them usable by the little ones. It is even possible to open up to foreign languages thanks to La conteuse enriched in English.
The brand offers a range of 3 storytellers with: The Wonderful Storyteller from 2 years old, which places the child at the center of the action, encourages him to experiment and manipulate this magic cube to enter an ultra-creative universe. They will be able to dance, learn and quietly listen to a story while carrying the cube in their ear. my first storyteller Montessori toy 1 year, is designed for toddlers and contains ballads, lullabies, nursery rhymes, nature white noises, poems and finger plays to wake baby up and re-enchant their nights. Its operation is identical and allows the baby to explore with their fingers, develop their fine motor skills and their autonomy and, of course, calm down or fall asleep gently.

A charming, sustainable and committed gift

East storyteller the design is customizable (you can add the content you want), so parents and grandparents can share moments of complicity with the little ones or listen to great classics revisited and original creations.

Pick a story box Joyeuse means preferring a durable object and a committed brand, which manufactures its products in France, near Nantes. The quality is also there since the JOYEUSE storytellers are robust and repairable to accompany each child for many years!

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Tinker Bell – Tinker Bell Syndrome

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2 days ago

February 1, 2023

Coralie Alves

Tinker Bell fairies are bright and ambitious women who also happen to be great seductresses and manipulators. Eternally dissatisfied, the Clochettes hide, behind their obsession with appearance and success, great suffering. And they would be more and more numerous in our society. Explanations with psychotherapist Sylvie Tenenbaum.

He receives more and more in his office: brilliant women, who collect successes and professional achievements; hyperactive people who seek to control everything, starting with themselves; The “superwomen” doubled as great seductresses. So much so that Sylvie Tenenbaum, a psychotherapist, called them “Les Clochette”, in reference to the little fairy imagined by the writer James M. Barrie, with whom they share much in common. Starting with great suffering. We knew about the Peter Pan syndrome, or that of Cinderella or that of Sleeping Beauty. Now here is the tinkerbell syndrome.

The Bells are angry

Ambitious, often arrogant, perfectionists… The bells are ready to do anything to achieve their ends. “They are in a form of violence in front of life, because they take a form of revenge, analyzes Sylvie Tenenbaum. It’s also about revenge, in a difficult childhood, where they were often criticized, abused, humiliated, manipulated. During this, they stored a good dose of anger. And anger is energy, which they will later channel towards professional and social success. »

” He symptoms of tinker bell syndrome form a coherent whole, explains Sylvie Tenenbaum. We speak of syndrome when we recognize most of these signs in a single personality. »

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Perfectionism takes away the joy of living

Being ambitious is good. But when our desire to do better becomes a relentless will, it can cause harm.

The Clochettes are afraid of their emotions.

Tinkerbell fairies are women who have suffered a lot during their childhood. Of toxic fathers, possessive or self-centered mothers, misogynistic or absent fathers… “Most of the time they did not have the same permissions as their brothers, if they did, they did not value them as girls, or they raised them to be the first all. hour. So they told themselves that to be loved, you had to be successful. And above all, that they should not express their emotions. Which constitute, for them, real weaknesses. “They are afraid of them because they think they can take away their strength. And strength, it is true that they have a lot.

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How to manage the hassle?

Sometimes we react inappropriately and negatively when faced with a nuisance. However, it is not always pleasant either for oneself or for those around you.

Clochettes are great seducers

In terms of affective life, the Clochette multiply the encounters and conquests. But they are rarely satisfied. “The men they meet are never good enough. And since they do not have an easy character, at the slightest disappointment they are immediately fired. They have been so frustrated in the past that they cannot bear the slightest annoyance.

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I don’t like any man

I am 27 years old and almost no stable and constructive relationship. Every time I meet someone, I run away.

In fact, they despise men, having suffered greatly from their father during their childhood. Therefore, they just expect them to be worshipped. But in reality, the Tinkerbell suffers from a form of emotional dependency. “They are still little girls waiting to be loved unconditionally. Very unconsciously, they expect men to repair their psycho-affective life. But it can’t work because nobody can give them what they didn’t receive in childhood”.

The Tinkerbells hurt each other

Their affective, professional and social hyperactivity allows them in any case one thing: not to think about their suffering. Because if the Clochettes seem to succeed at everything, they are actually suffering. Injure. Victims of themselves. “They don’t know who they are. They didn’t even ask the question. They just live to prove that they are the best, the most beautiful, the strongest. They are in a form of intoxication. Most of the time, they realize very late the loneliness in which they are locked up. And then they become aware of their immense sadness for not having been loved enough or badly.

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Childhood stress, difficult to detect and often underestimated

Just like adults, children can become unsettled and stressed by changes in landmarks or unusual events.

The bells hurt

Meanwhile, they do a lot of damage to those around them. For this egocentric womeninsensitive, manipulative, tyrannical and jealous, “others are objects at his service”. They don’t respect them. They would like the world to live just for them. We have been tyrannical with them for so long. Unfortunately, they copied their models. But this damage that they do and that they do to themselves, they don’t even realize.

We talked about it in the Psychology forum

tinker bells can break free

Fortunately, the Clochettes can change, “live better, have less heartbreak.” On condition of being helped. “It is a difficult path because it generates a lot of awareness. In particular that of having made others suffer. Generally, they are not proud of it. »

The key to transformation? “The repair of the girl that is in them and that she is still waiting for marks of love. It’s time to cultivate it”. Also renounce omnipotence, to meet your own emotions. And above all, “learn to love yourself better, to love yourself better”.

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Bell syndrome. These women who hurt and get hurtby Sylvie Tenenbaum, Editions du Moment.

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Couple: are you in an “invisible divorce”?

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3 days ago

January 31, 2023

Coralie Alves

Life together is far from being a long and calm river. If some couples end divorce Where break awayOthers stick together, but not always for the right reasons. In a Article From Psychology Today, Barbara Greenberg, Psy.D., explains this new phenomenon she has encountered as a therapist: invisible divorce. Some couples seem to work perfectly on the outside, they look happy on social media and their vacation photos are idyllic. However, under the social veneer, the reality is much less rosy. These couples are nothing more than a partnership that operates almost like a business. Explanations.

To outsiders, some marriages seem fine, even prosperous, but on the inside, the relationship is more like a business with partners leading disinterested parallel lives. This is how it happens. https://t.co/WjDh2F7DTs

— Psychology Today (@PsychToday) January 29, 2023

The 4 signs of an invisible divorce

We all knew this couple who looked so perfect, to whom everything seemed to succeed. we envy them secretly, wishing they were as happy as they looked. And then what was our surprise when we found out a few years after their separation. The phrase “invisible divorce” might be a good description of what was going on in your privacy : these couples had evolved separately and their union was ultimately just a facade.

the doctor Barbara Greenberg identified some signs that he believes could indicate that a couple is going through a invisible divorce :

the couple operates as a business where the main concerns would be children and finances;
there is a lack of emotional and physical intimacy between partners;
at least one of the two partners feels that their needs are not being met;
one and/or the other may go elsewhere to meet their physical or emotional needs.

These couples would be like “parallel lines, living together but functioning separately”, illustrates the psychologist. So why don’t they break up? He reasons they are extremely diverse and varied according to Greenberg. It may be that one of the two spouses fears the financial consequences After a separation, some remain together for “the good of the children.” Others just aren’t ready to break away and make the decision to stay together even when you are not happy.

Divorce: this behavior that predicts separation, according to a study https://t.co/88J00ZyWD6

— Psychologies (@Psychologies_) November 22, 2022

A frustrating and toxic married life

“These marriages are emotionally exhausting and frustrating,” adds the psychologist. As good as the reasons that would push you to remain in this type of union may seem, you put endangered his mental health and well-being. These people describe a daily life full of frustrations and disappointments. They feel disconnected from their partner. If you recognized yourself in the signs listed above, have them courage to face the situation, advises the therapist. “Try to renew the dialogue with your partner and restore healthy and harmonious communication. Talk about what worries you and your expectations, being as honest as possible, ”he recommends.

However, yes, the dialogue seems impossible or leads to a dead end, it is better to part when the feelings no longer exist. the invisible divorce it would be “toxic to both partners,” Greenberg concludes.

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Couple: the 3 worst love killers revealed by Science

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4 days ago

January 30, 2023

Coralie Alves

A healthy relationship is based on trust, sincere feelings, and a certain amount of personal sacrifice. But the recipe for happiness as a couple does not exist and human relationships are so complex that lovers can sometimes go through some storms. Of the routine small annoyances that can even destroy the intimacy of the couple, the discussions sometimes result from particular behaviors : love kills them. As its name indicates, a love killer is the trigger for a breakup or the end of love. This is what makes a person stop wanting her partner.

Australian researchers have investigated the question to scientifically identify the behaviors that could be the worst killers of love. To do this, they conducted a survey of 5,500 single people between the ages of 21 and 76. Participants had to determine what could turn them off in a potential mate (physical characteristics, behavior, etc.). Result: three answers stand out from the majority of the panel, allowing us to define the most devastating love killers.

lack of hygiene

If the lack of hygiene is the the most frequent reason for rupture would be the “murderous love” most feared by those surveyed. Not to mention the extreme neglect, symptomatic of Diogenes syndrome, 67% of the participants pointed out a lack of hygiene that could end the relationship.

Breakup: how long does it take to mourn a relationship? https://t.co/qPs0Vpb9Ed

— Psychologies (@Psychologies_) November 21, 2022

the procrastination

The second love killer that can paralyze the couple is laziness. For 72% of women and 60% of men, procrastination and lack of motivation can be unbearable. And that is not going to change. According to Fleur Daugey, author of Procrastinate to create better, this behavior would be a modern evil. “In our modern life, we are very subject to it. It is also noticeable more quickly. In the West and in a capitalist system, procrastination is particularly frowned upon because they say ‘time is money’”. Therefore, it would be necessary to overcome this behavior to carry out your projects and now save your relationship. Not to mention the harmful effects of procrastination on our health.

A permanent need for affection.

Finally, it is the excessive need for affection that, for 69% of women and 57% of men, can endanger a love relationship. People who constantly seek attention and displays of affection from your partner You may face relationship difficulties. Therefore, it is important to leave enough space so as not to undermine the other person’s sense of freedom. Lack of affection, also characteristic of Tinkerbell syndrome can be a sign of lack of self confidencewhich must be repaired at no cost to the member.